I came across a helpful article on the Child Development Institute website this morning. Having open communication is a struggle for most. Let’s help teach our children positive steps to feeling like they are being heard!
Good communication is an important parenting skill. Parenting can be more enjoyable when positive parent – child relationship is established. Whether you are parenting a toddler or a teenager, good communication is the key to building self-esteem as well a mutual respect.
Basic Principles of Good Parent/Child Communication
Words of Encouragement and Praise
Children thrive on positive attention. Children need to feel loved and appreciated. By selecting and using some of the phrases below on a daily basis with your child, you will find that they will start paying more attention to you.
Great job controlling yourself
I like the way you ______
I noticed that you _______
Keep it up
I had fun ______ with you
You are improving at ______ more and more
You showed a lot of responsibility when you ______
Way to go
I appreciate the way you ______
I like the way you ______ without having to be asked (reminded)
I’m glad you are my son/daughter
I love you
You can SHOW them how you feel as well as tell them:
Pat on shoulder, head, back, knee
Signal or gesture to signify approval
Laugh (with, not at)
Jaime Gonce has been working at Walnut Acres Children's Center for over 10 years and is now Director of the center. She has a masters in Child Counseling and attended San Diego State and California State University, East Bay.