During the holiday season it’s important to remember the words above. We are all so busy trying to get to this place or that, wrapping presents, baking cookies, trying to find that gift that your child really wants that we are STRESSED out. We forget about what the holiday season should truly be about. This should be a time for family when you get to take time to be with one another. For many of your kids they just want to spend time with you. They really don’t care what you do as long as you are giving them your full attention. So back away from the computer; put your phone down, put away the iPad and play a board game or cards with your kids. Ask them to teach you how to play James Bond, SPIT, or Egyptian War (these are all card games). Do an activity with your child that encourages conversation.
Kids are always longing to feel included; being a part of something is important and fundamental at this age. Having traditions is important no matter how small or big it may be. Since the time I can remember my family has had the same tradition on Christmas Eve. The youngest child keeps watch for the first star in the sky. Once the star is spotted everyone gets to open 1 present. It’s always the same, pajamas! Everyone from grandparents, aunts & uncles, cousins, and parents all put on their new pajamas and wear them for the rest of the night. It’s great when I look around the dinner table on Christmas Eve and see everyone being a part of this tradition. I look back at all the pictures with great affection and a good laugh! Some of those pajamas were never to be seen again. No matter what you celebrate it’s important to do something with your kids that everyone can participate in.
As the end of the year comes to a close I wish all of you a fun and safe holiday season. Please remember this season shouldn't be about what your children get but what the family did together. Make that extra time for them. It makes a difference!
Jaime Gonce has been working at Walnut Acres Children's Center for over 10 years and is now Director of the center. She has a masters in Child Counseling and attended San Diego State and California State University, East Bay.